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Saturday, September 29, 2007

In case you were wondering: Who pays

I have to say I'm surprised that /wardrobe/, and /whoever makes more pays/ (which may or may not correlate to /male genitalia pays/) didn't get more play. Love that 2% recognize /Girls don't need to be logical/ - goddess knows I'm not known for it.

Whomever asks should pay should have made a better showing, better even than dutch, imho. Ladies? Anyone?

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posted by fabulous girl at 4:44 PM

7 Comments:

  • I know a woman who is convinced that the guy has to always pay because otherwise it means that he doesn't value the girl.

    Baffles me.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 5:35 AM  

  • I always stubbornly insist on going Dutch, and have been criticized by friends and co-payees alike.

    By Blogger Rainster, at 7:25 AM  

  • MRK - I wonder whether the cost of the meal plays a part, or if she's just doing it on principle?

    R - Are you doing it on principle? Can you envision any situation in which you'd allow someone else to pay?

    By Blogger fabulous girl, at 3:11 PM  

  • Yes, it's more the principle of the thing. (We're talking just the first few dates, right? Because later on, it's whoever suggests the place/event/activity, and then later on it's an odd alternating paying system...) One exception is pre-purchased tickets, but I usually try to even it out by covering dinner or drinks (depending on what the ticket was for...)

    However, this entire outlook is subject to change, out of economic necessity/grad student desperation!

    By Blogger Rainster, at 6:57 PM  

  • I kind of like alternating paying - he pays for one date, I pay for the next. So that way you're sort of going Dutch, but without the trouble of using 2 credit cards or always having to have cash.

    Of course, now that Nate makes like a billion times more than I do (considering I make negative dollars), he pays for everything when we go out, and I pay for groceries (because I do the shopping anyway)...

    By Blogger UW Nutrition, at 8:22 PM  

  • I freely admit that if a guy asks me out, I will offer to pay (twice), but be disappointed if he lets me. I've never been the one doing the asking, but I'd expect the same two offers (neither accepted) from my invitee. And in either case, the one who doesn't cover dinner should cover drinks/dessert. Dutch just feels too friendly, in a sterile and asexual sort of way.

    Months into it, ALM and I trade off. And split groceries. Then again we actually discussed this very topic on our first date, which just goes to show how weird we both are. Or perhaps just well-matched.

    By Blogger BS, at 11:31 AM  

  • Ironically, in the few instances where I've done the asking, I won't let the guy pay. I never claimed to be consistent!

    By Blogger Rainster, at 4:31 PM  

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